HOPE
There are moments in life that bring us to our knees. A song. A sunset. Kisses from a puppy. An unexpectedly vulnerable conversation. They speak to something greater than yourself. A break in the fog of our plodding routines, our incessant complaining and jostling for a relatively meaningless place in the world. Moments that make you believe again. In love and magic and mysticism in the universe. That maybe you’re going to be OK. That life is beautiful. That you are loved.
I had that moment tonight.
At the end of the year you’re supposed to look back and reflect. Celebrate. Make changes. But every time I tried to look back on this year, I just cry. Because 2015 was just one of those years. My sister Katie got thyroid cancer. The doctor assured us that it was cancer with a little “c”, but it was still not fun sitting in a hospital room watching her shaking and vomiting as she attempted to croak out a request for more pain meds and then immediately vomitting those pain meds up once the nurse finally responded. Then I went to doctor for what I thought was a simple infection and instead ended up with a long-term “pain management system” for an auto-immune disorder. And then I capped off the summer at my friend’s funeral, she was in her forties with two beautiful young kids under seven. Selfishly, that was the worst for me. Because she was that friend where I could show up at her house, no make-up on, in sweats, crying and no matter how depressed she was, she took me in and we’d sipped wine and watched the sunset and inevitably we’d end up laughing and having a dance party on the bbq with the kids. And then one Monday morning she was just gone forever.
Don’t get me wrong, the end of the year has gotten better, but no matter how awesome life is, in the back of my mind, I guess I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop. For the next round of tragedy and illness and pain. On one hand, 2016 stretches before me with endless possibility. I’m writing my first episode of television. I’m in Honduras staying on a beach scuba diving with my whole family. But I’m in paradise and I can’t relax, stressed about what the future holds. I’m not sure if I can take another year like this one. If the next tragedy will be the time where I don’t make it — where I just give in to the fucking shit hole that is this world and just stop getting out of bed.
But tonight, my sister Katie (who has beaten aforesaid cancer with a little “c”) signed us up for a night dive. I did not want to do it, but Katie is way cooler than me and I like hanging out with her, so I decided to just keep my mouth shut, try not to panic and go on the dive. I also told her she was under legal obligation to hold my hand when I freaked out.
On the boat, as the sun set over the water, our Dive Master gave us briefing for the dive, which all seemed very normal until she got to the part where she said. “And then we’ll turn our lights off and let our eyes adjust.” Read the rest of this entry »